Learn all you can about TMJ Disorder, including treatments and proper terminology. You will gain a better understanding of what I am going through.
- Be a good compassionate listener, never be dismissive or patronizing. Let me vent frustrations, I’m not mad at you, I am mad at TMJ Disorder.
- Be encouraging. TMJ disorder is pretty greedy, and unpredictable. Sometimes just accomplishing daily tasks is a big deal.
- Be available, whether it be to go along on doctor appointments, or just a nice quiet evening at home.
- Help me learn to ask for help when I need it . Sometimes I feel isolated because I don’t want to bother anyone.
- Provide support, but don’t make me feel helpless.
- Ask questions…..I don’t mind – in fact, it lets me know that you care.
- Sometimes I just need to cry, even if it makes my eyes all puffy. Sometimes the pity pot is a nice place to sit….Don’t let me stay too long.
- I understand that you feel helpless. I do too. We can work on feeling better together.
- I know it’s hard to talk about things that are scary or unpleasant, and that there are no easy or obvious solutions, but we need to find a way to discuss my challenges and build a team.
Your presence and support are the most meaningful gifts you can give to me.